Self-esteem Definition:
Self-esteem
is defined as having confidence in oneself or in one's abilities and having self-respect.
Different Dimensions:
There are
people with low self-esteem and people with high self-esteem and people with
egoistic self-esteem which is in a way be called over-inflated self-esteem. We
can differentiate between them only through knowing the thoughts and feelings
of people about their worth.
How self-esteem
affects our personalities?
When you
have a high opinion of yourself you are likely to be more positive on the path
of life. You could be more enthusiastic about your plans for the future, about your
relationships, and so on. Minor hurdles won’t impede you from your goals and you
would be more confident about your inner strengths and more hopeful about your
success, even when people and circumstances are telling you otherwise.
While on the other hand, if you suffer from low self-esteem even the biggest achievement won’t convince you of your worth. Even if it would; it’s sure to be temporarily and soon the feeling of cloud nine would disappear. Slight hurdles and small negative expressions of people will be enough to throw you into the ditch of despair all over again.
Effects of
High Esteem Parenting:
I have seen my in life the women that were treated respectfully in their childhood gained their confidence and were really able to cope up with relationship issues later in their adult life and they hardly fall for wrong choices. When it comes to marriage, also, these kinds of women tend to have a certain sort of prerequisites before getting into the knot. That’s because they have a certain positive image of themselves. And they think they deserve good in this life. This feeling takes them on a better path and makes them take good choices in life.
Marriage
decision of women with low self-esteem:
While on the
other hand, women who have suffered any sort or level of gender discrimination,
or inequity, or maybe some phases of their childhood were filled with hatred or shame, which resulted; in them; being negative about their self-image and lose their
self-esteem. They tend to go for bad choices in their life. And particularly
when it comes to marriage and relationships they go so low on their profile that
they feel they will get whatever comes in their way be it wrong or right, be it
good or bad for them. They don’t really think they deserve any good in the
first place. So they fall for second choices. Their life and decision about
their relationships deteriorate just because of this psychological suffering
they battle in their life with. Women with low self-esteem always feel they
have to go a bit harder to get the man in their life hooked. They think of
themselves as not being so lovable as a result of this thinking they end up
getting into abusive and wrong relationships. They get so obsessed with this
thinking and they tend to feel so low of themselves that they don’t value their
worth or they don’t look to find out the people meeting their criteria of happy
relationships. They usually believe that they have to go the extra mile to get
someone in their life. So they end up doing things that don’t make them feel
happy but they do them anyway. Just because they think they might not get good
things at all if they didn’t go against their will.
That’s how
self-esteem changes our life upside down. If not settled, our life will
eventually pay off. Usually, the victims of low-self-esteem don’t know what they
truly are going through and why. In the end, They suffer at the hands of people around them.
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